Update 1 November 2017 – and how the plans may have changed

It’s been a while since I provided an update. There’s plenty of reasons for this, but one of the main ones is that there is no doubt about getting the visas… they are stuck in our passports right now.

We received our passports back from the consulate just four days after our interview; with the red, white and blue visa stuck on random pages. We also received the mysterious yellow sealed envelopes that we need to bring in our hand luggage when we enter the US.

We can’t open the envelopes (on pain of death apparently) so I have no idea what they contain. But if I were a betting man, I imagine they contain our DS-260s, notes from our interviews and our medicals – so they can be added to our files at the point of entry.

And as for the process of the DV lottery… well that’s it. While technically our visas still refer to us as DV Lottery winners, there’s no difference between us or the many thousands each year who cross the border to begin their lives in the USA.

So that’s where we are up to. For over 12 months now, we have worked towards deadlines set by other people. I saw the process described as “hurry up and wait” and I think that is a perfect summation of what it’s like – long periods of nervous silence, interspersed with moments of craziness.

From panicking about the quality of my passport photo, to the stress of almost failing the medical, to trying to work out which police certificate I needed, throughout all of the ups and downs I was worried about someone else’s opinion and working to someone else’s deadline.

And now, as I sit here today, deadlines now mean nothing (except the fact that I have to activate by the end of March). The decision to move and when to do it is mine, and mine alone. And therein, is the big change.

Previously, I didn’t have to think about the minute details of the whole process. Everything was compartmentalised – I had to apply, I had to be selected, I had to receive my 2NL, I had to get my police clearance and medical, I had to attend the interview. All clear objectives I had to work towards.

But now, with time to plan and think the real questions start hitting us. Can we REALLY afford this? What about the dogs? What will I do for work? Where will I live? What if this doesn’t work out?

These are the questions keeping my awake at night. It’s an opportunity I don’t want to miss out on (and I know I’ll regret it forever if I don’t at least try), but I’m pretty comfortable here in Australia – do I really want to throw it all away?

To try and find some answers, I reached out to a number of Facebook groups set up for Australian’s living in the US. Bad idea.

From what these forums appear, Australians hate living in the US. They are miserable in their marriages, they miss families and friends and they can’t find any familiar foods anywhere. Their desperation has just added another level to my uncertainty.

But I’m sure that decision will be made over the next few months. And I guess no matter what that decision is, I’ll have to respect it for the rest of my life… no matter what that decision is.

Advertisements

2 thoughts on “Update 1 November 2017 – and how the plans may have changed

  1. David, the biggest piece of advice I can give you after almost four years here is: take everything you read on those awful Facebook groups with a grain of salt. They’re mostly populated by miserable expats who moved 25 years ago and idealize everything about Australia even though they haven’t lived there in years. The vast majority of them aren’t green card winners who WANT to be here, they’re the ones who married a U.S. military man or woman, or moved for a job and could never leave, or fell in love on vacation, got married and had kids with a local, went through a divorce and now can’t take the kids back to Australia.
    They spend all their time in those groups bitching and moaning under the guise of “being part of a community and having common ground that Americans just don’t understand.” Half of them hang on to every single little Australian thing and refuse to adapt to the country they’ve lived in for years and years. That’s why I left the main group — I was tired of reading complaints day in and day out from the same people who refused to be openminded or try new things in the country they live in.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks Adrian. I’ve come to realise that fairly quickly. I’ve found a few really cool expat blogs (yours included) which give a much more realistic view of living in the states from people who actually want to be there. I think these sites will be my go to from now on.

      Like

Leave a Reply to DavidB Cancel reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s